Rape Analogy: The “Walking in a Bad Neighborhood” Theory

Rape Analogy: The “Walking in a Bad Neighborhood” Theory

A Linear Life?

When I was younger I thought of life as linear, one event happening after another. That was how history was taught in school. That is how I perceived it for a long time. Truth be told, everything is happening at once and this week, again, is proof. I was reading my 'Facebook" page, yes I have one, with my real name and everything. All of my friends updates brought me back to reality. First me, I awoke in extreme pain. I could barely move, let alone think. I didn't want to think much either because I couldn't escape the anniversary of my father's death. However that memory was countered by the birth of two beautiful and healthy girls. Making two of my favorite women Grandmas. Reading further I got to celebrate a wedding anniversary, and two more birthdays. Further reading took me to the funeral of a friends mother, the death of a life long friend and death of a 15 month old child. Should I stop? No. Then I would have missed one friend helping children and another putting all her free time into animal rescue. There are two more of my favorite women working their ass's off to make themselves healthier and the lives of their children better, someone just got a new job as we got a pay and benefits cut. We still have a job as another friend finds himself unemployed and yet another starts on a entirely new career. I won't stop reading, I won't stop crying or laughing, I will keep on living, along with my friends, in this great crisscrossing of events. Funny, does not stop being funny, because someone is sad. Sadness however lessens when exposed to the light. To my friends and family, please continue to share both your ups and downs. It helps to know we are not alone. I love you all and I am grateful that you share and that I can share with you.

Still here

Well, I am still here and so is the pain. I need to get another appointment, find out how far the bone has disintegrated. Then we can figure out what to do next.
The Husband is still looking for a new job. We have not heard from the last interviewer for two weeks. However, the current job has announced another pay and benefits cut. This is for the second time in 4 months. The good news is that my disability has increased by one dollar a month. Yeah!!!!! We are happy and doing well. We are open for change. This is a good life.

Feeling

Haven't been doing much thinking lately. Mostly feeling these days. The last few have me feeling sad. I am not quite sure why as most days find me very happy. I guess you could say I am feeling a bit homesick for my home state and city. No matter how hard I try, I just can't seem to get the ocean out of this girl. The rain here has been a nice change. We are still waiting on word from the company that The Husband interviewed at. It's been 6 weeks already. I also have been in a lot more pain than usual. Come to think of it Valentine's day is Sunday and the anniversary of my dad's death. I guess if I had done a bit more thinking, I might have understood sooner why I have been feeling sad. Makes sense now.